I’ve listened to hundreds of clients over the years and I’ve seen firsthand how early experiences shape patterns of success or strain in our business and our closest relationships.
Helena, sat across from me, her foot tapping as if it could communicate “ could we hurry this along, I’ve got 47 other things that need my attention — today”
The reason she requested our session together was due to her frustration and exhaustion, having hit a plateau with her business. “I’m doing everything right — I’ve hired a great team and I have many projects that inspire me, we offer great services — but I can’t seem to get to the next level,” she confided.
From the outside, Helena had it all. Her healing clinic brought in $225,000 in revenue each year. Yet as our session continued, and she answered a few family history questions, everything became clear to me.
“My mother was completely checked out and unavailable for most of my childhood,” Helena revealed sadly. “She was either working or traveling for her job or numbed out with alcohol when she was home.”
Helena’s experiences of the emotional distance with her mom as a little girl shaped her belief that she could never rely on anyone else to have her needs met.
In her adult life, her strong sense of self-reliance and tendency toward being a workaholic were understandable ways of avoiding feelings of vulnerability or dependence on others, stemming from experiences earlier in her life.
Yet all of this was now limiting her ability to scale her business and create the freedom she dreamed about.
In our work together, I shared “Your relationship with money and success is mirroring that early lack of nurturing and support.”
Unresolved hurts with our mom often lead to feelings of scarcity, concerns about never having enough, and profound difficulties allowing yourself to receive help.
As our session continued, it became clear that the growth Helena was seeking connected to her next professional milestone was her ability to accept care, support and collaboration, instead of the known pattern of pushing through and doing it all on her own.
Our relationship with money and professional success is deeply intertwined with our earliest experiences of being nurtured and provided for.
Money is the sensation of being provided for.
Our relationship with money is deeply rooted in our earliest experiences and the care we receive from our Mom, shaping this inner relationship with money in the first 5 years of our life.
It even begins in the womb, the development of patterns around feeling supported around receiving and feeling provided for.
These formative imprints don’t merely shape our childhood but continue to influence how we approach career, finances, and success throughout our lives.
Our relationship with our mom lays the foundation for our fundamental trust — or mistrust — that resources will be available when we need them. That life supports us or leaves us feeling as if we’ve got to do it all on our own.
When our mother was a constant source of loving nourishment, it can instill an inner sense of security that we’ll be taken care of.
On the other end of the spectrum, if our mother was inconsistent, overbearing, or withholding in meeting our needs, we can live our life with fears about not having enough and experiencing difficulties in receiving.
Our relationship with our mom serves as a blueprint and the patterns laid down in those earliest years — of either being reliably nurtured or facing inconsistency and lack — continue to reverberate through our attitudes about abundance, deserving, and allowing ourselves to be cared for by others.
Whether we realize it or not, our entrepreneurial journeys are inextricably shaped by the maternal impressions of those formative experiences. As money becomes a tangible representation of feeling provided for, a reflection of the nurturing or the lack we experienced in our earliest days.
By bringing awareness to these deep-rooted dynamics, we can rewrite the narratives that may be unknowingly holding back our professional growth and open ourselves to new possibilities of thriving.
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Johanna Lynn, founder of The Family Imprint Institute, is an expert in uncovering the hidden dynamics that shape our lives. With 20 years of experience, Johanna is dedicated to supporting her clients in resolving long standing issues to strengthen their relationships and their business.
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